Are we still choosing between a career or having kids?

can we have it all?

It hasn’t been that long since we received the rights to work, married or unmarried. Ridiculous, we know, we have come a long way and still have a long way to go. There is a growing trend amongst women, we decided to focus on our careers and postponing having kids. Is it because we are still forced to choose between family or our career?

Off course, there could be many other reasons, like not finding the right partner, not ready for a family, not wanting kids, not able to have kids or the fact that we can also bear children at a later stage of our lives. Whatever the reason is, there is still a lot of commotions, ranging from companies paying women to freeze their eggs to the opposite where companies actively discriminate women because they are pregnant or have children already.

Besides the many other challenges some businesswomen may have when working on their career, planning motherhood (if you decide that you would love to have children) might be the biggest challenge. Is the company you are working for pro-active in supporting “working moms”? For example, providing daycare, paid leave or flexibility to work from home?

What about social pressure? Judgement from one woman to another. (Btw can we please stop doing this? It’s hard enough as it is, don’t you think?)

If you want to have a career, you can’t have children
If you choose kids you should devote all your time to them
Mom's should be home with their children
It’s selfish to want to have children and a career

And although the camp is divided into multiple opinions, don’t you think that we can do both if we want to? Why should we have to choose? It’s not like we would say, “okay, you know what? We are not giving birth anymore, see how you populate the world without us”. We don’t know what your thoughts are, but we refuse to go back to the “good old days”.

Where do we go from here? Well, empowerment starts with us, right? What are your thoughts?