Insecurity kills...

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MY WORST ENEMY...IS CALLED... INSECURITY

It kills hopes and dreams and well… your VERY BEING. It eats and eats, it whispers in your ear “you are NOT GOOD enough”. It tells you that you CAN’T DO IT, it tells you, you are not worthy. INSECURITY KILLS…but YOU ARE the one that lets it do so. It’s time to SHUT your insecurity UP!  

HAVE YOU EVER…
…wanted to apply for a job and thought…I don’t have all the specification they ask, I must not be good enough?
…looked in the mirror in the morning thinking you looked horrible and felt horrible all day long?
…took a selfie and then 500 more because the result was not to your liking?
…envy someone else and thinking you could not do what they do?
…not spoken up during a presentation or meeting because you thought you wouldn’t add any value?
…felt useless or worthless just because you gave yourself that feeling?
…thought you were not smart, witty, funny, lovely etc.…. enough?

I am guessing that you, just like me answered to most, if not all of them with a YES.
Now what? How do you shut your insecurity up? How do you start killing your insecurity instead of the other way around?

By following these SHIMMIE RULES! Confident women rule the WORLD! Well, at least your world…let’s start there…

You is pretty, you is smart and you is loved…
NO! you are not waiting until someone tells you that you are smart or pretty or loved! When looking in the mirror in the morning…YOU ARE GOING TO TELL YOURSELF THAT! Why wait for someone else when you can do it yourself?  And it might seem weird and even awkward, but I promise you, you feel a lot better by giving yourself a positive speech in the morning! Here, let me give you a start…
I am smart
I am loved
I am worth it
I can do whatever I set my mind on!

Whatever you do…I can do better…
Yes, this is about arrogance, allow yourself to be a bit arrogant! Statistics show that Men apply for a job when they meet only 60% of the qualifications, but women apply only if they meet 100% of them” Why? What is the reason that a man feels more confident to apply for a job even when he is not meeting all qualifications? And how come we think that we have to thick all boxes? The only answer I have is that they feel confident enough, knowing their own strength and maybe a bit arrogant to think they can swing it either way?

Who knows? What I can tell you,  is that being confident within also shows on the outside. Be confident, believe in yourself and if you don’t feel it? Fake it until you do! Oh, and please apply for that job, you never know where it might take you.

Be you…that is your superpower
Don’t compare yourself with others, there is only one of you and that is AMAZING! Don’t look at others and thinking oh I wish I could do that or I wish I could look like her. Why would you? There is only one you and YOU are UNIQUE! Embrace that, use that strength and most of all be proud of you… being you!

I feel pretty oh so pretty…
Yes, we have to talk about our looks! Why? Because the way we look defines the way we feel (at least for most of us). Don’t deny it! When you wake up and your hair is exactly how you want it, makeup is on point and you are wearing your favourite outfit? We can see that you are feeling good! And when you feel good, you walk with confidence, you feel like you can take on the world! Now…try to keep that feeling!

Ladies…I am not saying this is easy, it’s not. But there is no one in the world that can make you feel as shitty as you can. There is no one to blame or point fingers at... It’s you and yourself only that can change your mind from an insecure to a more confident mindset, until then…fake it until you make it!

You are smart...
You are wonderful...
You can do it...
You are gorgeous...
You are unique...
You are loved...
You can do WHATEVER you set your mind on…

BE YOU…DO YOU...FOR YOU…
Love,
Shimmie